The Cost of Calm


This episode explores the hidden cost of always being “the calm one.” Drawing from lived experience, James Barbour reflects on growing up attuned to emotional instability, learning to regulate rooms, and carrying responsibility quietly. What begins as strength and adaptability can, over time, become a form of self-erasure.

Rather than framing calm as endurance or control, this episode invites listeners to reconsider what real calm actually is—and what it requires to choose it without abandoning oneself. A reflective conversation about steadiness, self-trust, and the difference between being needed and being known.


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